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What to Do When You Fuck Up

We are human. We all make blunders from time to time. Whether you are Jack the Ripper or the Dali Lama, there will be times when things don’t go our way. It’s inevitable.

The difference is HOW WE HANDLE IT.

Jack the Ripper could very well take it out on slaying more innocent victims.

The Dali Lama could reflect, shift his perspective and find the silver lining.

Here is what I do when I inevitably fuck up. This post was actually inspired by last night.

About Last Night’s Screw Up.

what to do when you fuck up

1. OWN IT.

This is key. When we take responsibility for our own actions, we take the POWER back. Most of the time, we want to place blame to take the heat off ourselves. That’s childish & just makes it worse.

When you fuck up, own it. Apologize. And I don’t mean the “fake” apology… like the “I’m sorry YOU did not understand what I was trying to say” That apologize is just re-directing blame. And that is not Owning It. 

2. HANDLE IT.

Now you have owned it, the next step is to fix it. What are 2-3 things you can do to make it better?

WHAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM IT?

If it happened at work, what can you do to ensure it does not happen again to yourself and your staff?

If it was at home & you yelled at one of your family members – what made you see red? Can you instill a trigger to ensure the next time you communicate it in a more effective way?

Triggers are a great way to create awareness & get you into your optimal state. Want to create your own custom triggers? Book a session with me now & I will hook you up. 

3. RELEASE IT.

This part is so darn important. When we hold on to our “fuck ups”, it eats us up inside. When we hold on to the guilt & frustration when we mess up, it eats us up on the inside. We start vibrating at lower levels – which is not good for us.

When it is not released, it will manifest into something ugly. Trust me. I’ve been there. Some may self-medicate through food, drugs, shopping, gossiping … while others could resort to abuse to themselves or others. It can also manifest in physical ailments.

So, make sure you create a process to release the emotions in a constructive way.

The next time you fuck up, use these 3 simple, yet powerful tips. Use the opportunity to grow & learn from it.

Because it is all about the journey, not the destination!

Here is to your Effortless Life!

– Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

Indrani

 

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Take Action and join the 7 Day Challenge to An Effortless Life. In this challenge you will learn simple strategies to:

  –  Be Grateful for Negative Emotions! (it sounds crazy, but trust me – it’s rad!)

–  Transform Anxiety & Overwhelm Into Inspired Action

–  Create Abundance in Your Life Now

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My biggest insight from Day 1 is that even though emotions can feel difficult or “bad” in the moment, there’s a way to process them to our benefit and let them teach us something valuable…they can open our hearts, and expand our reality if we give them the space and take the steps to open up to them. When we pay attention to and feel difficult emotions completely, and even thank them…then we are allowing them do their job and work in support of us.” – Gianna Filice 

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The ONE Ritual That Will Change Your Life!

Change Your Life It is the one ritual that will change your life! Best part? It is simple to do! Talk about Effortless!

My mantra is “It takes Effort to be Effortless & it is WORTH it!!”

I am a Momma of 2 girls, 10 & 3. I run a transformational coaching business. Needless to say, I am busy – just like you. So Effortless systems are mandatory in our lives.

So let’s get to it.

The One Ritual is ….. Setting a Daily Intention. It will CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

This is SO powerful in so many ways! Here are my favorites.

Intention Creates Focus

For most of us, we are rushing to get out of the door to get to all the “stuff” we need to do. We are not focused in on how we want to feel throughout the day. When we spend a few minutes daily focusing in on how we want to feel – that is really powerful.

Intention Guides Us

We can leverage the intention to have it guide us throughout our day. When facing a decision we can ask ourselves “Which option will best serve my intention for the day?”
What an amazing way to leverage our “inner GPS”?

Creates Presence

As our lives seems to get more busy, we need to make the time to live in the present moment. When we begin our day with an intention, we start off taking a few deep breaths to get present and increase our vibrations. It’s like rebooting our brain.

If you are a visual person like me, you can check out the live streaming Periscope I did just for this topic!

Okay, now that I have “sold” you on some of the benefits of Setting an Intention,

Here are 3 Effortless Ways to Set An Intention:

1. State of Mind

This is essential! If you are setting an intention out of fear, worry, stress or any other negative vibration the intention is not as powerful. So, let’s maximize the power of the intention!

Take a few cleansing breaths. Focus on 3 different things you have Gratitude for. Engage your emotions into the activity. When you elicit your emotions, your energetic vibrations will increase.

Now, take a few moments to focus on your breath. This creates presence in the here and now.
Next, ask yourself “How do I want to feel today?” Do you want to feel empowered, loved, happy, generous, etc? Take a moment and sink into that feeling.

Finally ask yourself “Are there any meetings or events that are happening today?” “How do I want to show up in those meetings/events?” Do you want to be a leader? Do you want to give value? Do you want to connect with like minded people?

Take a few final cleansing breaths. You can use my mantra. As I breathe in, I state “I am inhaling Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes” and when I exhale I say to myself “I am releasing any emotions/thoughts which do not serve my intention.”

2. Release the Control

This is crucial. So many times our minds want to jump to “how” our intention will manifest. By doing that we are limiting ourselves to a few outcomes. And who the heck wants to be limiting? By releasing the control we can allow for the intention to manifest.

3. Unwavering Belief

Trust the universe has your back. Sometimes things happen for us in unexpected ways. The outcome can hit us by surprise, so trust Life is Happening FOR YOU. Always. Because life is filled with speed bumps, detours & construction zones. And in those “hiccups” is where we are able to grow, learn & stretch into our Best Self!

The last thing is to incorporate this into your daily practice to really see the change in your life. Remember, it take effort to be effortless!

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Set up a complimentary discovery call with me now.

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

– Indrani

3 Tips to Overcome Fear Now

Have you dealt with fear when it comes to your business, a new challenge or life in general? I think we all have. The thing is fear is good! It gives us warnings of danger. Fear can also inspire action. That’s amaze sauce, right? So, fear can actually be a good thing. Fear becomes an issue when it prevents us from what doing things we want to do. When it gets in the way of our dreams, fear is something we need to conquer. I’m going to give you 3 Tips to Overcome Fear Now.

3 Tips to Overcome Fear Now

 

This quote above is by Mel Abraham. I read it in the Entrepreneur’s Solution. It is really a great, great read. He has great systems and his stories are inspiring. Get it here for less than $8!

I must say, I’ve danced with fear more times than I care to admit. But, here comes the silver lining every time that nasty fear creeps up, it gets easier and quicker to overcome and move forward. So, with that, I am excited to share with you my personal tips I use to conquer fear.

Here are 3 Tips to Overcome Fear Now!

1. Start with the Mind.

Our mindset is the foundation to everything. Fear can magnify reality, so go to the opposite extreme. If you are nervous about public speaking or for your upcoming interview (which is ridiculously common) take a deep breath and visualize the outcome you want.

This is a game changer. You are now focused on the positive result rather than the fear! Holla!

2. Take Action.

When we take action, we stop the feelings of fear. Whether it is creating a strategic plan or making that video you have been procrastinating on, just do it baby! We cannot allow the fear to take over and paralyze us in moving towards our goal. Create a plan, take small steps and celebrate each achievement! The first step is the hardest. It’s like stepping into a pool. Yeah, the water is cold. We know it. We dread taking that first step, but when we do, we quickly get used to it. Then it is easier to take the next step and the one after that. Life is the same way doll!

Kick fear where the sun don’t shine and replace it with feelings of accomplishment. Boom!

3. Reflect daily.

This is amaze sauce! Yes, I made up “amaze sauce”, you will come to understand, and perhaps. one day love my “Indranisms”.

I practice Gratitude every night. It puts me into the perfect positive vibrations and I can connect with the highest part of me. I created a custom Daily Gratitude Log because I could not find one in the marketplace that inspired me.

I share my Daily Gratitude Log with you. Try it out. You will feel the difference of your mood the first time you use it. It’s rad.

There you have it! You are armed with Three Tips to Overcome Fear Now. Start today. Take action. You will feel amaze balls.

You know what? You have it all within you. Trust yourself and let it come out!

When I started to look inward, I found myself. I found my purpose. As a result I left Corporate America to be a transformational coach. I’ve never looked back. Boo-yah!

I love having it straight forward and pretty to look at. The Log focuses on your actions, people that impacted you, future actions for tomorrow and daily affirmations. When I don’t do it, I can tell the difference in my sleep. Yes, it is that big.

Daily Gratitude Log

As promised, here is a free download of the Daily Gratitude Log.

http://theeffortlesslife.rocks//the-daily-gratitude-log/

When you write in it and love it, take a photo of it and send it to me! You can tag me on social media as well (my handles are below in case we are not friends yet) and hash it baby! #theeffortlesslife

Until next time –

Sending you tons of Love & oodles of Light!

-Xx

Indrani