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How I Got Out of My Own Way

How to Get Out of Your Own Way

I was sitting in a 3 day seminar with butterflies in my stomach. Ever since stuttering as a child, I always had a fear of public speaking. Something made me raise my hand.  When I was called, I went up to the microphone to state why I was there. As I walked up, I had no freaking idea what I was going to say. When I took the mic, I blurted out “I want to get out of my own way”. I didn’t even know what that meant! I was shocked to get so much applause. As I was giving people hi-fives on the way back to my chair, I started my path to self discovery. Here is my journey on how I got out of my own way.

I have always had a plan for my life. I wanted to be in control and know what was coming. I planned out the milestones in my life to a tee.  At the time, I thought I will brilliant and discovered the secret sauce. I mean, I had it all! The husband, daughter, dream home and good job, all at the age of 28.

I had life figured out. Until I didn’t.

I realized all of huge decisions I made in life was out of fear. I didn’t take chances or risks because I did not want to get hurt. I didn’t want people to know that I never felt like I fit in. So, I played it safe. I wanted to know the outcome, so I tried my damnedest to control life. The funny thing is, by trying to control everything, I realized that I shut my intuition out.

The statement “I want to get out of my own way” was my catalyst to take a deep dive internally.  Life is funny. I tried so hard to not let my past impact me because I never wanted to be the victim. I didn’t realize that my perspective of my past had such a huge impact on my life decisions. I learned to let go of my need for control & I gave into my fear. Check out this post to overcome fear now. I was dedicated to change my “story” of my past. I never felt so vulnerable and powerful at the same time. It was life changing. Here are the 3 things I did to get out of my own way.

1. Uncover Your Intuition.

In another seminar, I asked a question to the facilitator. “I don’t hear my inner voice.” He responded, “You need to quiet the mind”. This seemed impossible to me! For as long as I could remember, I was a mind racer with a million thoughts running through my head. It made it hard to focus during the day and at night was worse. But, I trusted Mel and took his answer to heart. When I taught myself to quiet the mind, I could hear my inner voice. Check out this post on how I uncovered my intuition.


2. Boost the Confidence Factor.

Confidence is key. Once we have the answer, we need to be bold and have the confidence to take action. Confidence & action is key to getting out of your head. For tips on boosting your confidence, check out this previous post.


3. Give It Up to Gratitude.

Although gratitude is currently on trend, it is here to stay. So many of people, especially us A-type personalities, tend to think about the future. I thought I was being proactive because I was on top of things. Now that I practice gratitude and have systems in place, I can be present because I know I have the future covered. Here’s the gratitude log I use.

Daily Gratitude Log

When I adopted the above 3 strategies, I hit my sweet spot. Things came into place. I manifested my soulmate as a divorced Mom. We have our dream home in Los Angeles. Most importantly, we have 2 beautiful daughters that teach me life lessons all the time. I left Corporate America to pursue my passion to help others create a purposeful life they fully love.

You can have it all! I am living proof.

I love my life and wouldn’t trade with with anyone in the universe! Isn’t that how life is supposed to be? I can help you do the same.

Book a complimentary discovery session with me now! I only have a few spots per month, so if you are serious about creating a purposeful, passionate life you would not trade with anyone in the planet, contact me today.

Sending you tons of Love & oodles of Light!

– Xx


How I Dealt with the Loss of our Puppy

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How I Dealt With Our Puppy's Death

Last Sunday our pupply was hit by a car and died. As I type these words, I am still in disbelief. I am a firm believer of the mantra, “Everything happens for a reason” and finding a reason for this was damn hard. Here is how I dealt with the loss of our puppy.

When it happened, we were all outside in the backyard. It was a sunny and beautiful day in Los Angeles. The girls were having fun, playing in their tree house and Tiggy was running around, playing with them and getting into my veggie garden.

When we didn’t see his cute little face, we started calling his name. All the sudden, I had a pit in my stomach. I ran outside to the front of our house and I saw him laying on the street, with a puddle of blood by his tiny head. I let out a blood curling scream. Michael and the girls ran out. I blocked the girls and took them to the backyard. My oldest, Devani knew and was crying uncontrollably. Bryanna, our 2 year old knew something happened. I was holding them tight and as I looked up, I saw my husband’s face. He was in tears. And I knew we lost our beloved puppy.

My mind was racing. I had so many emotions go through me, it was overwhelming. I had to get my mind in order. I knew I had to process this, so I could fully be present and help my family.

1. Release Blame.

When my husband went to pick up Tiggy from the street, his lifeless body was still warm. The driver that hit him was in tears. Her 10 year old son was with her. When I heard that, my first reaction was empathy. I could not imagine what she was going through, knowing her car had hit and killed our puppy.

I instantaneously forgave her in my head and sent her family an abundance of love. 

2. Let Go of the Guilt.

My mind was racing, “What could we have done to prevent this? How did we let this happen?” There was so many things we could have done in hindsight, but that is all infamous “Coulda Woulda Shoulda”. I have lived in the land of guilt for many, many years.

Guilt and worry landed me in the hospital with ulcers. To me, guilt is the easy way out. The tough choice is to forgive yourself. The amazing part of forgiveness is that it enables you to see clearly and release a huge weight off your shoulders.

Guilt is a wasted emotion. Choose forgiveness. If God can forgive us, why is it so freaking hard we forgive ourselves? We are not perfect. We are human.

3. Find the lesson.

This step was really freaking hard. I was racking my brain, searching for an answer. When I couldn’t find one, I stopped obsessing. I reminded myself to take a deep breath and clear my mind.

In my relaxed, I remembered what my Mom told me when our kitten died. “Sometimes our pet knows something bad is going to happen to their family, so they sacrifice their life for their owner’s.”

That comment has always resonated with me. I started searching for what the  “something bad” may have been. All the sudden, I got goosebumps all over.

We live on a busy street. Our front yard is pretty secure, but there are a few things that need attention. It was always on our “to do” list, but then life happened and other things took priority.

Not anymore. The next day I called our handyman to fix our front gate, add a lock to our screen door and get an estimate to add another side to our gate to completely secure the front yard. We also have contacted the city last year to add street lights, so I asked my husband to follow up with the city. Doing everything in our power to prevent this from occuring again led to peace in my soul.

Finding the lesson and knowing Tiggy’s death was not in vain is what keeps me going. It gives me the strength to support and be there for my family.

We talk about Tiggy all the time. We remember all the funny things he did and how he loved us unconditionally. In the little time we had him, he made his way into our hearts and taught us invaluable lessons.


Yesterday was history, Tomorrow is a mystery, Today is a gift, that is why it is called the Present. Savor it.

Sending you tons of Love & oodles of Light!

– Xx


My Game Changer: Meditation

How to Meditate in 10 Minutes

For most of my life I have been the A type personality. I have always been the multi-tasker, doing a million things at once. When I was first introduced to meditation, I was instantly repelled.

Meditation was so far outside my comfort zone. Who the heck had time to meditate? I was already so busy with life.

My mind was always racing. Thoughts would fly in and out 24/7. It would take me such a long time to fall asleep every night because my thoughts would compete with each other. And you know what? I enjoyed it – most of the time.

Two years ago I was re-introduced to meditation. I was at a low point in my life. I was fulfilled in many aspects of my life – but something was off. I knew I had to take action. I went to a therapist that practiced alternative methods over medications. One of her methods was meditation.

By this point in my life I have heard so many benefits about mindfulness, I decided to give it another shot. I changed my typical approach from going all in to a more staggered approach.

It took time to find the right guided meditation, music and environment, but it was worth it. Two year later, I love meditating. It is something I look forward to. It clears all the thoughts in my head and when I am finished I feel focused, calm and ready to take on the world.

Take it from me. If I can meditate, so can you! The hardest thing about mediation is waiting for it to get good.

It’s like licking a Tootsie Pop. You don’t know how many licks to takes to get to the gooey, delicious center. I will tell you, meditation (and that Tootsie Pop) is worth the wait.

Here are my favorite benefits that I have gotten out of meditation & other mindful practices:

– I am truly happy

– My anxiety is virtually elminated

– My mindset shifted to a whole new level of positivity

– I see the abundance around me

– I am present and able to enjoy the moment

– Things fall into place effortlessly

Please note: Meditation did not create all of these amazing benefits on it’s own. I have instilled other practices as well that have played a part in my life transformation. I’ll share my other methods with you in future communications.

For now, I would love to share with my favorite resource when I got started with meditation.

 Oprah & Deepak Chopra free 21 day meditation experience – This mediation was a great way to understand the benefits and have a guided meditation for the first part of the audio. The second part is where you can start to quiet the mind and focus on your breath or a mantra.

I would love to hear from you about your journey with meditation!

If you want to accelerate your path to create a life you fully love, contact me for a complimentary consultation.

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Sending you tons of Love & oodles of Light!

– Xx