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What to Do When You Fuck Up

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We are human. We all make blunders from time to time. Whether you are Jack the Ripper or the Dali Lama, there will be times when things don’t go our way. It’s inevitable.

The difference is HOW WE HANDLE IT.

Jack the Ripper could very well take it out on slaying more innocent victims.

The Dali Lama could reflect, shift his perspective and find the silver lining.

Here is what I do when I inevitably fuck up. This post was actually inspired by last night.

About Last Night’s Screw Up.

what to do when you fuck up

1. OWN IT.

This is key. When we take responsibility for our own actions, we take the POWER back. Most of the time, we want to place blame to take the heat off ourselves. That’s childish & just makes it worse.

When you fuck up, own it. Apologize. And I don’t mean the “fake” apology… like the “I’m sorry YOU did not understand what I was trying to say” That apologize is just re-directing blame. And that is not Owning It. 

2. HANDLE IT.

Now you have owned it, the next step is to fix it. What are 2-3 things you can do to make it better?

WHAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM IT?

If it happened at work, what can you do to ensure it does not happen again to yourself and your staff?

If it was at home & you yelled at one of your family members – what made you see red? Can you instill a trigger to ensure the next time you communicate it in a more effective way?

Triggers are a great way to create awareness & get you into your optimal state. Want to create your own custom triggers? Book a session with me now & I will hook you up. 

3. RELEASE IT.

This part is so darn important. When we hold on to our “fuck ups”, it eats us up inside. When we hold on to the guilt & frustration when we mess up, it eats us up on the inside. We start vibrating at lower levels – which is not good for us.

When it is not released, it will manifest into something ugly. Trust me. I’ve been there. Some may self-medicate through food, drugs, shopping, gossiping … while others could resort to abuse to themselves or others. It can also manifest in physical ailments.

So, make sure you create a process to release the emotions in a constructive way.

The next time you fuck up, use these 3 simple, yet powerful tips. Use the opportunity to grow & learn from it.

Because it is all about the journey, not the destination!

Here is to your Effortless Life!

– Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

Indrani

 

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  –  Be Grateful for Negative Emotions! (it sounds crazy, but trust me – it’s rad!)

–  Transform Anxiety & Overwhelm Into Inspired Action

–  Create Abundance in Your Life Now

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“I love this challenge! I watched the past week of vids in one session this morning – love your friendly warm energy, and your enthusiasm :). I wanted to let you know today’s video on Abundance and being open to RECEIVING definitely hit home for me. I will be changing my mindset on that – celebrate my achievements, receive pleasure from them (and others), and let the abundance flow! Have an awesome day and thanks for all you do and share :).” – Jenn Lang

“I’m so excited for the gift you’re sharing through The Effortless Life!  Thank you! I found you in a seemingly random way.  I noticed a comment you made on an Instagram post about manifesting a spot on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday, and I thought… well this is a person I’d be interested in finding out about!  I hope to see you on the show one day soon. So, I quickly followed you on FB and found your website. Now I’m here to thank you for offering your wisdom to the world, in particular this free class.  It looks like it aligns with the practices I’ve been working on over the last year or so, and I think it will compliment my current “efforts” very well!  What you’re offering seems like just the boost I need at just the right time …

My biggest insight from Day 1 is that even though emotions can feel difficult or “bad” in the moment, there’s a way to process them to our benefit and let them teach us something valuable…they can open our hearts, and expand our reality if we give them the space and take the steps to open up to them. When we pay attention to and feel difficult emotions completely, and even thank them…then we are allowing them do their job and work in support of us.” – Gianna Filice 

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My Path to Having it All: Stage 3 – The Divinity Phase

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My Path to Having it All - The Divinity PhaseLiterally, there is no words magical enough to describe this phase. It is just so amazing. The closest thing I could describe it is when you watch a kids movie – and the scene where they are in a fairy world, where miracles are a daily thing. It’s kinda like that.

In My Path to Having it All – The Divinity Phase is worth EVERY blood, sweat, tear, emotion and anything else that occurred. I know look back on my path and sheds tears of gratitude for the experience that happened in my life. The violence, abuse, failed marriage, soul sucking jobs. I am so grateful that I went through all of the negative emotions life the comparison-itis, the judgements, the self doubt, the outsider, the lack of confidence, the hatred for myself.

Yes, I know I probably sound insane. Years ago, if I read this which I would have read every blog on this site incessantly I would have thought, “Okay, now is where I will tune out. What freak would like to have all of those feelings? I’m out. Well, as soon as I finish this post.”

I needed to go through all of those things so I could rise.

I was so self conscious of my speech impediment -> now I am a public speaker

I tried to kill myself and was on antidepressants -> now I HAVE IT ALL

I left a “perfectly fine” marriage and was a Divorced Mom -> now I have my soulmate and 2 beautiful girls

I left a great, stable job in Corporate America -> now I help others Have it All

Feeling like an outsider my ENTIRE life -> now I have a tribe which support and love me for who I AM

Doubting myself and decisions -> now I am aligned with my highest self and trust in my decisions

Faking my confidence and feeling like a fraud -> now I step into myself and own my confidence

My breakdowns -> now are My Breakthroughs

My Vulnerabilities -> now are My Power

ALL of those crappy things were lessons I needed to learn. To BUILD my compassion. To empathize with others. To be able to share my story with others. I needed to go through all of those things so I could be here now. With you.

If you are inspired, then it’s time to take action. I’d love to help. Set up a complimentary discovery session with me now!

The Divinity Phase is where we aspire to be, whether we realize it or not. In this phase, you see things that are so much bigger than ourselves. Where judgement is replaced with compassion. Where presence is King. Where vulnerabilities transform to power. Where breakdowns transform to breakthroughs. It is freakin awesome sauce. It is where miracles happen on a daily basis. Where life happens for you. Where we trust ourselves and have this inner love, confidence and validation for who we are.

It is unwavering faith we have that life is working for us. It is the phase where we get hit with thunderbolts all the time. Where inspiration hits repeatedly, like raindrops on windows. And we use that inspiration to take action. Where things magically align and fall into place.

I am in the phase now and it is miraculous. Now, I will say that it take work to stay at this frequency. It is daily work. But now, it is effortless to do. Because I am aware of my thoughts, feelings and emotions, I have harnessed my super powers. I have the power to choose and create the life I want. And I have the belief that it is manifesting and will be better than I imagined!

Bottom line is, life happens. All the time. You can’t control life. BUT, you can control how you react. And when are in conscious about our thoughts and choose the ones that serve our highest good, amazing things happen. I AM LIVING PROOF!

If I can do it, you can too. I believe we are deserve to Have it All. The path is simple, but not easy. It is like building a new muscle. It takes a new routine, training, discipline, rest and patience. And it is worth it. I guarantee it.

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

– Indrani

To check out My Path to Having it All Stage 1 – Grounding Phase, click here.

 

My $2400 Lesson

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If you take action when your head and soul aren’t aligned, it can be a risk. Like a $2400 risk. My $2400 LessonSometimes opportunities that are presented to you appeal so much to one part of the brain, you rationalize yourself into a decision. Has that ever happened to you? You bet your bottom dollar it has happened to me. Here is my $2400 lesson.

I was presented with an opportunity from someone I really respected. It was an opportunity to generate money by helping people save money when shopping online. And there was an ability to help non-profits in a huge way. Amazing right? It totally appealed to the left side of the brain. The data was there. Sales on the internet continue to increase, people love saving money AND I could give back to non-profits? I was sold. So, I signed up and spent $2400 to join. (Little did I know the fine print. That was another lesson.)

So I started telling my friends and family about my ‘new’ venture and started to sell memberships. Here are my lessons learned.

1. How NOT to Sell.

I was a mess. I ended up spamming everyone I knew. Reflecting back on it, here is an official public apology for my douchy, repelling marketing (I don’t even think it qualified as marketing) techniques. My heart was in the right place, but I did not think about the customer’s perspective. I hate it when people come at me in a spamy way and I did the same exact thing that made my skin crawl! It was a hard but necessary lesson to learn.

Tweetable: When you offer a product or service, always place yourself in the shoes of your customer. 

2. Importance of Personal Brand.

I thought this opportunity would be a great side business where I could generate income to support my start up business. The problem was I diluted my brand. I was doing so many random things at once, my vibes were all over the place. I was a mess.

Tweetable: When you are developing your brand, ensure everything you do supports that brand.

3. Be Congruent.

When you are congruent with your heart and soul that’s when the magic happens. When the work you do is aligned with your passion and purpose, you hit the sweet spot. The area where you can be confident in moving towards your dreams. It is a glorious feeling.

Tweetable: When you are aligned with your purpose and passion, success & happiness is organic.

Biggest learning I received in my life. Find the lesson in EVERYTHING!

Life happens. We can’t control what happens. But what we can control is how we react to it. We have a choice. We can choose to let it hold us back and keep us small and contracted in life, or we can choose to learn from it, expand and rise above it. I always choose the latter.

The best part is the choice we decide to make is 100% in our control. 

The $2400 Lesson was an invaluable one. I considered so many things. What I DIDN’T consider was my soul. Was this aligned with my purpose in life? Was I really passion about it? If I posed those questions to myself perhaps a different decision would be made.

What $$ Lessons have you learned?

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

– Indrani

3 Life Lessons My Kids Taught Me

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As parents, we instinctively know we should nurture, teach and develop our kids. What I didn’t know was how much I would learn from them. Here are the 3 Life Lessons My Kids Taught Me.

 

Check out this replay I did on Periscope on this topic!

Perspective is Everything

1. JOY: When I take my 2 girls, Devani is 9 and Bryanna is 3, to the park, I love to watch them play. They have so much fun. The squeals of laughter and immense joy warms my heart. Earlier this week when I was at the park with them, I ask myself a question. “Where does the joy go?” As adults we are programmed and wired to take life seriously. We have more responsibility, but why does that have to limit our joy? The answer is, “It doesn’t!!”

But learning from our children, we can start finding joy in everyday life. From taking a work break to call someone that you know will have you squealing with laughter. Or indulging in a perfect cup of coffee or a piece of really good chocolate. Or immersing yourself in all the amazing things in your life you have gratitude for. Let’s start installing joy into our everyday practices so we can pause and see the beauty in life.

2. CURIOSITY: When my girls would try to figure something out, I would immediately go to assist them and show them the right way to do it. Now, I just sit back and watch them with awe. The way they look at it and come up with their own way using a kitchen utensil is amazing. I love seeing their brain work and use curiosity to figure things out.

We lose curiosity as we get older. It could be from a teacher telling us that we are not smart, or from our parents shutting off imagination. It could be from not asking the question in class because we don’t want to look stupid. Let’s change that. Let’s start answering the question when our kids ask us “why”. Let’s look at our life, techniques and routines to see how we can make things better. Maybe more efficient. Or streamlined. That is where we unleash our curiosity and tap into our genius. How do you think our innovators like Edison, Disney, Einstein & Jobs changed history? They got curious and looked for another way, another solution to make things better.

3. RESILIENCE: Watching my 3 year old mastering the monkey bars is freakin’ hilarious. She is so close to reaching the bar and her tenacity is remarkable. My older daughter is the same way. Our kids have so much resilience. They want to learn things, no matter how many times they fall on their cute booty. If they want to master something, they will get up and try again and again.

As we grow older, we can start losing our resilience. We can become paralyzed because we do not want to fail. We do not want to look stupid. We want to ensure the first time we will succeed. And when we do attempt to try it once, if we do fail, we let that lesson impact our future decisions. That failure is tattooed on our soul and it can stunt our future endeavors. Let’s learn from our kids. Let’s use their resilence to stay on our path to living the life of our dreams. A life we would not trade with anyone on the planet. When we fall, let’s learn from it and transform the “failure” into a “lesson”. We can then use that “lesson” to take try again until we succeed. It’s a magical thing.

Being a parent has been so rewarding in so many ways I could have imagined. I had learned so much from my girls. They have given me so many gifts. Patience, Gratitude, Joy, Curiosity, Resilience, Unconditional Love and so much more.

When I am stumped, stresed, frustrated or depleted, I look to my kids. I submerge myself into their reality. And it is priceless. They fill up my tank. They give me faith. They give me love. And then I can go back to my reality with a new perspective on life.

Sending you Love, Light and Oodles of Positive Vibes!

-Xx

Indrani

How to Stop Being Perfect and Start Living a Happier Life

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Perfectionism blows. Seriously. The struggle of being perfect is real. Perfectionism can be detrimental. It can stifle your dreams, lead to inaction and cause anxiety. Research shows it can cause depression and lead to suicide. On the other hand, striving to be perfect can be a great thing. It can propel us to go beyond our best. It can break records. It can be a wonderful thing. Perfectionism is thin line. It’s important to know the difference, Here are 3 strategies how to stop being perfect and start living a happier life.

1. Just Do It.

I love the saying “Entrepreneurs are flying the plane while building it.” It is so freaking spot on. Perfectionism can hold us back on doing what we want. Publishing that blog post. Applying for that job. Raising your hand. When perfectionism stops us from taking opportunities, it need to be put in check. Taking action breaks the perfection paralysis and the fear that goes along with it. 
Just Do It

2. Be You.

Growing up, all I wanted to do was fit in. My nickname “Annie” was much easier to say than “Indrani”. My nickname trickled through school, college and into the workplace. When I reclaimed my birth name, it was a proud moment. I accepted myself. I knew I was different and for the first time, I was proud of it. Being authentic to yourself is much more powerful than trying to fit in.

Be You. Authentic.

3. Embrace Imperfection.

We were born to be perfectly imperfect. If we were perfect, we would have nothing to learn. Yeah, it may be cool for a bit, but then the rest of your life would be a snooze fest. Let’s be real. We were put on this beautiful world to experience life. The good and the bad, the ups and downs. We are here to rise when we fall as stronger and smarter beings. It’s a beautiful thing.

How to stop being perfect

Now you know how to stop being perfect, it is time to take action! Once you implementing these strategies in your life, you will start to see huge shifts. Start by taking small steps towards your goals. Embrace who you are. Don’t worry about what others will think. When you stand in your truth and when you are authentic, the right people will be attracted to you. It’s magical when this happens.

Are you ready to make a massive shift to change your life? Do you want to get out of your own way and start living the life you envisioned? Let’s talk. Book a discovery session with me now.

Sending you tons of love and oodles of light!

– Xx

Indrani

Be You. Everyone Else is Taken.

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Bruce Jenner

I watched the Bruce Jenner documentary last night. I was in tears. I could completely empathize with his feelings. Feeling like you had to be someone else and not be you is gut wrenching. Bruce Jenner threw himself into sports to avoid the conflict he had inside. He excelled and broke world records. Even though he was known as “The Best Athlete in the World”, he was still unfulfilled inside. When he spoke about the famous picture during the Olympics after receiving his medals, he said it was bitter sweet. He knew that he now the Olympics were over, he would have to deal with his internal battle. Although I did not deal with gender identity, his story hit close to home. I was trying to fit in by blending in. Bruce Jenner reinforced the reality to

Be You. Everyone Else is Taken.

Just imagine for a moment. Imagine you are 65 years old, have a huge family, with kids and grandkids. Although you loved them dearly, you hid a huge secret. You hid who you were at the core. You couldn’t share with them who you really were because you did not want to hurt them. In my life, I felt this way because I grew up in Pennsylvania in a predominantly Caucasian demographic. I was so different. From my name, to my dark complexion – I felt like an outsider. When my first grade teacher attempted to promounce my name, I quickly corrected it to “Annie”, my childhood nickname. And I used my nickname all through college. When I was in my late 20’s, I had an incident that rocked my world. I walked by a mirror and caught a glimpse of myself. I stopped and look a closer look. I didn’t recognize my reflection. It shook me to my core. For the next 8 years, I was on a path – a mission to find myself and just be me. I ended my marriage. I manifested my soulmate as divorced Mom. I left Corporate America after 16 years to fulfill my purpose in life. I have realized all of my experience in my life has given me the knowledge and expertise to help others. I help others manifest a fulfilled life with time for passion, self-care and presence through strategy and mindset.

When I watched Bruce Jenner’s journey, I looked back on my path. I was filled with emotion. When I made the decision to be my authentic self, I made huge changes that impacted the people closest in my life.

I am proud to say that my daughter is so much happier as a result of my life choices.

I can show them they can have it all. I am living my life on purpose and they see that everyday. They know they can do anything and be anything. Always remember to Be You. Everyone Else is Taken.

Sending you tons of Love & oodles of Light!

-Xx

Indrani