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The Power of Negative Emotions

For the longest time I didn’t “allow” myself to process negative emotions.

I didn’t want to be “The Emotional Gal” because I was told I wouldn’t be taken seriously – especially in Corporate America.

So, whenever I had negative emotions like fear, guilt or sadness I would tell myself “They were bad” and would push them deep inside. I thought I had it all figured out.

If I was able to be “happy” all the time, then everything would be fine. Kind of like the Seinfeld episode “Serenity NOW”.

It worked for a while. Then it all crashed down upon me…

I had a breakdown. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, full of anxiety and completely lost.

Even though it looked like I had it all … from Manifesting my Soulmate as a Divorced Mom to our amazing home in Los Angeles, our 2 beautiful girls, the “dream” job in Corporate America & a successful interior design business.

During my breakdown, I finally rolled up my sleeves and did the inner work that I desperately needed but never wanted to face.

Through a year of non-stop therapy, coaching, seminars, book & resources I was able to go through the dark and embrace the lights.

I realized Negative thoughts ARE GOOD FOR US!

They are there intentionally to alert us that something is off. It is a trigger for us to reflect and see what is going on with us and our environment. It’s a fabulous awareness tool. Here is a video I cut just for this important topic.

The thing is, most of us choose not to process and release them, we are only hurting ourselves & the people we love. We end up depressed, anxious and stressed. We take prescribe meds which can lead to other issues or we self medicate though food, shopping, gambling, passive aggressive actions, gossiping ….

Instead of harming ourselves and the people around us, let’s take BACK the control. Let’s process those pesky negative emotions. Then we can release them. And we can get back into our High Vibes.

Because my dear, we are all energy. And we are human magnets.

When we are radiating high vibes of love, gratitude, abundance – we attract more of that in our life.

Conversely, when we are living in the negative emotions for too long, we continue to attract more things to continue staying in the lower energetic vibrations.

And we can see it all around us. I am sure you have the Eeyore’s or Oscar the Grouch’s in the world. Remember the down in the dumps donkey from Winnie the Poo & the Green haired guy living in the trash can on Sesame Street? They had one thing is common. They were always radiating lower energy levels.

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This is such an important piece of living a life you are Obsessed with. We all have days which drive us crazy. Crap happens. And that is okay.

Instead of pushing it down and trying to rationalize it, start to process it. Understand it. Learn from it. That is SO POWERFUL in our self awareness and reflection.

Because life is a journey, not a destination. The world is our classroom. It is up to us to find the lesson, search for the silver lining in all. That is how we grow. How we learn and how we teach others.

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

– Indrani

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Impact of Negative Emotions On Our Health

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We all know negative emotions are not good for us. That is apparent. But did you know the link between negative emotions and our health? Research is coming out daily on the impact of harboring negative emotions like stress, anxiety, resentment, guilt and fear. It is so freakin’ inspiring to know we can take back the power of our health.

Let’s face it. Negative emotions happen to us all the time.

Check out my video on Negative Emotions here.

80% of our thoughts are negative.

Isn’t that insane? But, there are there for a purpose. It is an indicator, a warning light to let us know something is amiss. And most of the time we are completely unaware of our internal notifications.

Instead we choose to push it deep down inside of us. We try to believe it is not a big deal. And we may try to slop some positivity on top of it. But that does not work. Because the negative emotion is still within us. It needs to be released. And if we don’t intentionally release it, it will take matters into it’s own hands.

It can come out in passive aggressive comments. (That was my “go to”). Or it can be road rage. Or domestic violence. It is really scary when you think about all the cases of the guy who went postal and no one say it coming. And then as facts come up, they had emotional issues under the surface.

It can manifest in binge eating, or shopping (another vice of mine), drinking or drugs as an escape route.

The latest research has shown over 40% of cancer patients has “forgiveness issues”. The anger and hatred creates chronic anxiety. And it produces bad stuff which hinders the production of the good cells to fight cancer. See more here.

So, it is in our best interest to process the emotions we have. And know there is a difference between forgiving and condoning the action. The forgiveness is a release of emotions. It is something we can do for ourselves. Now.

Now is the time to take our power back. Release the emotions and embrace forgiveness. It is a simple way to create peace in our life.

You can do the work on your own, or you can find someone that can help you.

I’ll be doing a free challenge – The 7 Day Journey to an Effortless Life and this will be one of the topics we will cover. It will be freakin’ awesome!

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Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of High Vibes!

– Indrani

3 Simple Strategies to Overcome Guilt

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Guilt is a wasted emotion. I wish I could banish it from the universe. Why? Because guilt can eat away at you. I suffered my ulcers with I had feelings of guilt, stress and worry. That’s when I got serious and started to look for ways to handle negative emotions in a positive way. Here are my 3 Simple Strategies to Overcome Guilt.

1. Get Out of Your Head.

We are our worst critic! As women and especially Mom’s we have these crazy high standards for ourselves. We need to be easier on ourselves and realize that we were not born to be perfect. We are perfectly imperfect! So, when you have feelings of guilt, ask yourself, if you best friend came to you with the same situation, what advice would you give her? Would you tell her she was a horrible person and was justified for her guilty feelings? Or would you reassure her? If you select the latter, then you are like most mom’s. We give empathy and love to everyone else, but we are so tough on ourselves. Well, from today, let’s change that! The advice we give to our friends, we need to give to ourselves. So, give your a break and the benefit of the doubt. Focus on the things that make you amazing!

2. Transform it into a Positive Inspired Action.

This is my fav! Take those pesky guilty feelings and turn it into action! Let’s say you missed an event at work & your little one is bummed. Take a step back and see what steps you can take to ensure you can attend the next event. For instance, do you have simple, effective systems in place to create time for the most important things in life? If not, now is a great time to incorporate that into your life. Another inspired action is to take your child out and spend some one on one time together. No electronics and be present. Kids are so darn entertaining and it is such a great opportunity to take a break from everyday life. So turn those guilty emotions into action and create fun memories. Talk about a Win/Win!

3. Future Map It.

Close your eyes and visualize your life in 5 years. This event that you have guilt feelings over, does that play a factor into your future? If the answer is no, then there is no point fussing over it now! This really is effective in putting things into perspective.

So, there you go. You are hooked up with 3 Strategies to Overcome Guilt. I use this all the time in my life as well as my clients.

I’d love to hear your comments on the strategies and your tips you use to overcome guilt! Sharing is caring!

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