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3 Must Haves to Kill It in 2016

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As 2015 is winding down, it’s time to reflect on the year and get ready for 2016. The natural thing to so is to set “Resolutions”. While that is great, Statistics Brain research revealed only 8% of people that actually make resolutions are successful in achieving them! Crazy right? BUT – don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. Here are 3 Must Haves to Kill it in 2016.

Silver Lining

1. Find the Silver Lining in Everything:

 

Really. This sounds so cliche, but totally true. When we search for something positive in a glum situation, we are setting ourselves for success . According to research at Kentucky University, “People who are optimistic are more committed to their goals, are more successful in achieving their goals, are more satisfied with their lives, and have better mental and physical health when compared to more pessimistic people.” The proof is in the pudding! So when “Life Happens” – embrace it. Believe Life Happens for you. Learn from it. Know it is part of your growth.

2. Set Soul Based Goals:

 

Do your goals inspire you? If it does not inspire you, you most probably will not achieve it. Your goal should light you up! It’s all about focusing on how we feel, rather than what we want. We are not chasing things, we are chasing our feelings. Ensure your goals include how you want to feel. Our emotions are everything. So, leverage it!

3. Invest in Yourself:

 

This is my personal mantra. As a transformational coach, I am always investing in my growth. This is essential to our development & ultimate happiness. As I continue to develop, sharpen & harness my skills, I can have more impact on my clients, family & friends. And as my skills grow, more people want to work with me. It is a win/win. Whether it is investing in a coach, courses, or books, make the conscious choice to always invest in your growth.

“Our Intention Creates Our Reality” – Wayne Dyer

You are now hooked up. You have the 3 tools you need to kill it in 2016. When you are intentional in creating a life you are obsessed with, you are setting yourself up for happiness. And happiness leads to success!

Now it’s time for you to shine. In the comments below, share with us:

1. What is a recent negative experience you have recently encountered? What can you learn from it?

2. What is 1 Soul Based Goal you have in 2016?

3. How will you invest in yourself this year?

If you are ready to get clear on where you are, where you want to be, I’ve got your back. Set up a clarity call now.

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

– Indrani

How to Make a Decision – 5 Effortless Strategies

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Making a decision can be a pain in rear. Especially a big one.

When my client asked me for insight on how to make a decision, I decided to turn it into a blog post. Because my effortless tips are AWESOME SAUCE.

Let’s get to it.

How to Make a Decision

1. Act Like You are Advising a Friend or Loved One.

If they came to with the same dilemma, what advice would you give them? What would you recommend? This question is super powerful because it access your creativity and genius zone. It uses your own intuition – which is where the answer lies.

2. Are You Making Your Decision From Fear?

Our mind loves routine AND it loves to protect us. So the “safe” route is what the mid will prefer. Ensure the decision isn’t made JUST because it is the safer choice. Why? Because that is a decision made from a place of fear. And that can easily lead into regret later.

Don’t be the #shouldawouldacoulda person!

3. Is There Another Solution?

Look at the cons of all the options. Then see if there is a way to reduce the cons. Is there a new solution which can be a hybrid of the different options? Instead of just a “Yes” or “No” option, is there another solution which can work?

Ex: Should I invest a coach? 

Initial Options: 1. Yes, do it!      2. No! I can’t afford it.

Alternatives: 3. Maybe – let me looking into coaches & see if there is one that really inspires me. If and when I find that person, I can then re-evaluate my decision.

4. Project Yourself into the Future.

One year from now, when you are looking back on your decision, how does it feel? Try on all the options in your mind. Which feels better? Which one fuels your purpose/soul? Which fuels your goals? Which choice makes you proud & give your butterflies?

5. What Would Your BEST Self Do?

Do you have a mentor or role model? Take a few minutes and jot down what qualities about them inspire you. If they had to make the same decision what option would they choose?  Does that option resonate with you? This will get you closer to the mindset of the “ideal” you. What would she/he do?

TIPS:

– Ensure you are not stressed/anxious when you are asking yourself these questions

– Get a pen & paper! Writing is a powerful tool. Set a timer & get to it!

– Know YOU have the right answer. And these questions will guide you to it. Check out this research by PsychCentral.

– If nothing comes to you immediately, take a break and come back to it later.

Making decisions can be tricky. But now you are armed with thought provoking questions to make the best decision for you!

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes

– Indrani

Want more? I’ve got your back. Book a complimentary discovery session here. We will get clear on where you are, where you want to be & I’ll give you solutions on how to get there.

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“Hey Indrani! Thank you so much for the awesome work that you do. You’re absolutely amazing! I had a great discovery session with you today. Thank you for your tips on helping me deal with my inner child, fear, and the affirmations to calm my inner child and fear. Great work 👏🏾!!!” Lonette Flowers 

The Power of Negative Emotions

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For the longest time I didn’t “allow” myself to process negative emotions.

I didn’t want to be “The Emotional Gal” because I was told I wouldn’t be taken seriously – especially in Corporate America.

So, whenever I had negative emotions like fear, guilt or sadness I would tell myself “They were bad” and would push them deep inside. I thought I had it all figured out.

If I was able to be “happy” all the time, then everything would be fine. Kind of like the Seinfeld episode “Serenity NOW”.

It worked for a while. Then it all crashed down upon me…

I had a breakdown. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, full of anxiety and completely lost.

Even though it looked like I had it all … from Manifesting my Soulmate as a Divorced Mom to our amazing home in Los Angeles, our 2 beautiful girls, the “dream” job in Corporate America & a successful interior design business.

During my breakdown, I finally rolled up my sleeves and did the inner work that I desperately needed but never wanted to face.

Through a year of non-stop therapy, coaching, seminars, book & resources I was able to go through the dark and embrace the lights.

 I realized Negative thoughts ARE GOOD FOR US! 

They are there intentionally to alert us that something is off. It is a trigger for us to reflect and see what is going on with us and our environment. It’s a fabulous awareness tool. Here is a video I cut just for this important topic.

The thing is, most of us choose not to process and release them, we are only hurting ourselves & the people we love. We end up depressed, anxious and stressed. We take prescribe meds which can lead to other issues or we self medicate though food, shopping, gambling, passive aggressive actions, gossiping ….

Instead of harming ourselves and the people around us, let’s take BACK the control. Let’s process those pesky negative emotions. Then we can release them. And we can get back into our High Vibes.

Because my dear, we are all energy. And we are human magnets.

When we are radiating high vibes of love, gratitude, abundance – we attract more of that in our life.

Conversely, when we are living in the negative emotions for too long, we continue to attract more things to continue staying in the lower energetic vibrations.

And we can see it all around us. I am sure you have the Eeyore’s or Oscar the Grouch’s in the world. Remember the down in the dumps donkey from Winnie the Poo & the Green haired guy living in the trash can on Sesame Street? They had one thing is common. They were always radiating lower energy levels. 

Have you signed up for 7 Day Journey to An Effortless Life? It is a free 7 day challenge. The participants have gotten SO MUCH VALUE from this. From managing Guilt & Anxiety to Leveraging Negative Emotions & Attracting Abundance – they have achieved massive results. Sign up here to creative massive positive change in your life.

High Vibes

This is such an important piece of living a life you are Obsessed with. We all have days which drive us crazy. Crap happens. And that is okay.

Instead of pushing it down and trying to rationalize it, start to process it. Understand it. Learn from it. That is SO POWERFUL in our self awareness and reflection.

Because life is a journey, not a destination. The world is our classroom. It is up to us to find the lesson, search for the silver lining in all. That is how we grow. How we learn and how we teach others.

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

– Indrani

Ready to create a life you are Obsessed with? Set up a discovery session now. It’s powerful.

“I am still high on the oodles of your positive energy from our discovery sesh yesterday. I learned a ton of things about myself, that I had no idea about and I am really enjoying the challenge of my “I deserve” affirmation homework. Indrani you ROCK!” – Demitri Sargent

Impact of Negative Emotions On Our Health

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We all know negative emotions are not good for us. That is apparent. But did you know the link between negative emotions and our health? Research is coming out daily on the impact of harboring negative emotions like stress, anxiety, resentment, guilt and fear. It is so freakin’ inspiring to know we can take back the power of our health.

Let’s face it. Negative emotions happen to us all the time.

Check out my video on Negative Emotions here.

80% of our thoughts are negative.

Isn’t that insane? But, there are there for a purpose. It is an indicator, a warning light to let us know something is amiss. And most of the time we are completely unaware of our internal notifications.

Instead we choose to push it deep down inside of us. We try to believe it is not a big deal. And we may try to slop some positivity on top of it. But that does not work. Because the negative emotion is still within us. It needs to be released. And if we don’t intentionally release it, it will take matters into it’s own hands.

It can come out in passive aggressive comments. (That was my “go to”). Or it can be road rage. Or domestic violence. It is really scary when you think about all the cases of the guy who went postal and no one say it coming. And then as facts come up, they had emotional issues under the surface.

It can manifest in binge eating, or shopping (another vice of mine), drinking or drugs as an escape route.

The latest research has shown over 40% of cancer patients has “forgiveness issues”. The anger and hatred creates chronic anxiety. And it produces bad stuff which hinders the production of the good cells to fight cancer. See more here.

So, it is in our best interest to process the emotions we have. And know there is a difference between forgiving and condoning the action. The forgiveness is a release of emotions. It is something we can do for ourselves. Now.

Now is the time to take our power back. Release the emotions and embrace forgiveness. It is a simple way to create peace in our life.

You can do the work on your own, or you can find someone that can help you.

I’ll be doing a free challenge – The 7 Day Journey to an Effortless Life and this will be one of the topics we will cover. It will be freakin’ awesome!

And if you are ready to take massive action & go boldly in the direction of your dreams, I got your back. Apply for a free discovery session here. We can get clear on where you are, where you want to be & I’ll hook you up with recommendations on how to get there.

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of High Vibes!

– Indrani

3 Simple Steps to Stop Living in the Future

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3 Simple Steps to Stop Living in The FutureThis was SOO me a few years ago. I had a newborn, along with a 7 year old. I was working full time in Corporate America. I also had an interior design business. It was crazy! As an ambitious women, I was permanently living in the future. I was always planning for the next thing. And then I had a breakdown. And everything changed. Here are 3 Simple Steps to Stop Living in the Future.

And the Acronym is “WTF”!! Fitting huh???

1. Write it Down

This is huge. When we have everything up in our head, it is nearly impossible to stay present. How can you when you are trying to remember not to forget to pick up the wine tomorrow after getting off work? So – give your brain a break and write down the key things you need to do. I help my clients create weekly plans to stay on track while being present. It’s awesome sauce!

2. Take a Tech Timeout

I love technology. So much that I was partially obsessed. So, I took a timeout for 9 days. For some people, 9 days sounds like a breeze. It can be tough for people that are on technology all day (and night!). Check out blog on Unplugging from Social Media here. I am not suggesting ban it completely, but I am saying take a technology timeout daily. Even if it is for 30 minutes. When you don’t have a device in your hand or close by, you have more time to focus on the present.

3. Find Joy

What gives you joy? Is it being outside? Or do you have a cozy chair you love sinking into with a “real book”? Is it tickling your baby and getting high vibes from their contagious laugh? Or is it having a glass of wine, or a cup of coffee? Whatever it is, indulge in acts of joy everyday. Whether it is 5 minutes or 5 hours, when you take time for joy, that is when you are focused on the present. And that is a great place to be.

Guys, it can be simple. Simple is all I do. Anything too complicated doesn’t work for my crazy, amazing life.

Take time to implement these acts daily and you will start to see the shift. It’s the small changes that lead to the huge breakthroughs!

Focus on the present. Because yesterday is history and tomorrow is not promised!

Want to know what is holding you back from Having it All? Take this simple and intuitive quiz to find out now!

Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

Indrani

 

3 Life Lessons My Kids Taught Me

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As parents, we instinctively know we should nurture, teach and develop our kids. What I didn’t know was how much I would learn from them. Here are the 3 Life Lessons My Kids Taught Me.

 

Check out this replay I did on Periscope on this topic!

Perspective is Everything

1. JOY: When I take my 2 girls, Devani is 9 and Bryanna is 3, to the park, I love to watch them play. They have so much fun. The squeals of laughter and immense joy warms my heart. Earlier this week when I was at the park with them, I ask myself a question. “Where does the joy go?” As adults we are programmed and wired to take life seriously. We have more responsibility, but why does that have to limit our joy? The answer is, “It doesn’t!!”

But learning from our children, we can start finding joy in everyday life. From taking a work break to call someone that you know will have you squealing with laughter. Or indulging in a perfect cup of coffee or a piece of really good chocolate. Or immersing yourself in all the amazing things in your life you have gratitude for. Let’s start installing joy into our everyday practices so we can pause and see the beauty in life.

2. CURIOSITY: When my girls would try to figure something out, I would immediately go to assist them and show them the right way to do it. Now, I just sit back and watch them with awe. The way they look at it and come up with their own way using a kitchen utensil is amazing. I love seeing their brain work and use curiosity to figure things out.

We lose curiosity as we get older. It could be from a teacher telling us that we are not smart, or from our parents shutting off imagination. It could be from not asking the question in class because we don’t want to look stupid. Let’s change that. Let’s start answering the question when our kids ask us “why”. Let’s look at our life, techniques and routines to see how we can make things better. Maybe more efficient. Or streamlined. That is where we unleash our curiosity and tap into our genius. How do you think our innovators like Edison, Disney, Einstein & Jobs changed history? They got curious and looked for another way, another solution to make things better.

3. RESILIENCE: Watching my 3 year old mastering the monkey bars is freakin’ hilarious. She is so close to reaching the bar and her tenacity is remarkable. My older daughter is the same way. Our kids have so much resilience. They want to learn things, no matter how many times they fall on their cute booty. If they want to master something, they will get up and try again and again.

As we grow older, we can start losing our resilience. We can become paralyzed because we do not want to fail. We do not want to look stupid. We want to ensure the first time we will succeed. And when we do attempt to try it once, if we do fail, we let that lesson impact our future decisions. That failure is tattooed on our soul and it can stunt our future endeavors. Let’s learn from our kids. Let’s use their resilence to stay on our path to living the life of our dreams. A life we would not trade with anyone on the planet. When we fall, let’s learn from it and transform the “failure” into a “lesson”. We can then use that “lesson” to take try again until we succeed. It’s a magical thing.

Being a parent has been so rewarding in so many ways I could have imagined. I had learned so much from my girls. They have given me so many gifts. Patience, Gratitude, Joy, Curiosity, Resilience, Unconditional Love and so much more.

When I am stumped, stresed, frustrated or depleted, I look to my kids. I submerge myself into their reality. And it is priceless. They fill up my tank. They give me faith. They give me love. And then I can go back to my reality with a new perspective on life.

Sending you Love, Light and Oodles of Positive Vibes!

-Xx

Indrani