Guilt is a wasted emotion. I wish I could banish it from the universe. Why? Because guilt can eat away at you. I suffered my ulcers with I had feelings of guilt, stress and worry. That’s when I got serious and started to look for ways to handle negative emotions in a positive way. Here are my 3 Simple Strategies to Overcome Guilt.
1. Get Out of Your Head.
We are our worst critic! As women and especially Mom’s we have these crazy high standards for ourselves. We need to be easier on ourselves and realize that we were not born to be perfect. We are perfectly imperfect! So, when you have feelings of guilt, ask yourself, if you best friend came to you with the same situation, what advice would you give her? Would you tell her she was a horrible person and was justified for her guilty feelings? Or would you reassure her? If you select the latter, then you are like most mom’s. We give empathy and love to everyone else, but we are so tough on ourselves. Well, from today, let’s change that! The advice we give to our friends, we need to give to ourselves. So, give your a break and the benefit of the doubt. Focus on the things that make you amazing!
2. Transform it into a Positive Inspired Action.
This is my fav! Take those pesky guilty feelings and turn it into action! Let’s say you missed an event at work & your little one is bummed. Take a step back and see what steps you can take to ensure you can attend the next event. For instance, do you have simple, effective systems in place to create time for the most important things in life? If not, now is a great time to incorporate that into your life. Another inspired action is to take your child out and spend some one on one time together. No electronics and be present. Kids are so darn entertaining and it is such a great opportunity to take a break from everyday life. So turn those guilty emotions into action and create fun memories. Talk about a Win/Win!
3. Future Map It.
Close your eyes and visualize your life in 5 years. This event that you have guilt feelings over, does that play a factor into your future? If the answer is no, then there is no point fussing over it now! This really is effective in putting things into perspective.
So, there you go. You are hooked up with 3 Strategies to Overcome Guilt. I use this all the time in my life as well as my clients.
I’d love to hear your comments on the strategies and your tips you use to overcome guilt! Sharing is caring!