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What to Do When You Fuck Up

We are human. We all make blunders from time to time. Whether you are Jack the Ripper or the Dali Lama, there will be times when things don’t go our way. It’s inevitable.

The difference is HOW WE HANDLE IT.

Jack the Ripper could very well take it out on slaying more innocent victims.

The Dali Lama could reflect, shift his perspective and find the silver lining.

Here is what I do when I inevitably fuck up. This post was actually inspired by last night.

About Last Night’s Screw Up.

what to do when you fuck up

1. OWN IT.

This is key. When we take responsibility for our own actions, we take the POWER back. Most of the time, we want to place blame to take the heat off ourselves. That’s childish & just makes it worse.

When you fuck up, own it. Apologize. And I don’t mean the “fake” apology… like the “I’m sorry YOU did not understand what I was trying to say” That apologize is just re-directing blame. And that is not Owning It. 

2. HANDLE IT.

Now you have owned it, the next step is to fix it. What are 2-3 things you can do to make it better?

WHAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM IT?

If it happened at work, what can you do to ensure it does not happen again to yourself and your staff?

If it was at home & you yelled at one of your family members – what made you see red? Can you instill a trigger to ensure the next time you communicate it in a more effective way?

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3. RELEASE IT.

This part is so darn important. When we hold on to our “fuck ups”, it eats us up inside. When we hold on to the guilt & frustration when we mess up, it eats us up on the inside. We start vibrating at lower levels – which is not good for us.

When it is not released, it will manifest into something ugly. Trust me. I’ve been there. Some may self-medicate through food, drugs, shopping, gossiping … while others could resort to abuse to themselves or others. It can also manifest in physical ailments.

So, make sure you create a process to release the emotions in a constructive way.

The next time you fuck up, use these 3 simple, yet powerful tips. Use the opportunity to grow & learn from it.

Because it is all about the journey, not the destination!

Here is to your Effortless Life!

– Sending you Love, Light & Oodles of Positive Vibes!

Indrani

 

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